Moment Musicaux

1. (the person who tagged you is)
Esther Low

2. (your relationship with him/her is)
FwEnDsX

3. (5 impressions you have of him/her) -
- Bims!
- Random
- Strange at times
- Inherently a nice girl but her dark side is trying to jump out
- Spontaneous

4. (the most memorable thing he/she has done for you)
She took the initiative to plan Adam’s birthday! I didn’t because he specifically asked me not to. See, I’m so yielding. HA.

5. (the most memorable words he/she has said to you)
My premonitions come true quite often.

6. (if he/she becomes your lover, you will)
Run away to EEPANEMA

7. (if he/she becomes your lover, things he/she has to improve on will be)
Uhhhh. Not a chance (to be lovers). Sigh why am I doing this.

8. (if he/she becomes your enemy, you will)
Try to love her anyway.

9. (if he/she becomes your enemy, the reason will be)-
Don’t know? Don’t want to.

10. (the most desirable thing you want to do for him/her now is)
Grr… Get Indus Gigs!

11. (your overall impression of him/her is)
BIMBS I’m sorry

12. (how you think people around you will feel about you)
Noisy?

13. (the characteristic you love about yourself is)
Being able to be calm during emotional turmoil.

14. (the characteristic you hate about yourself is)
Lazy!

15. (the most ideal person you want to be is)
Like Jesus.

16. (for people that care and like you, say something to them)
I really appreciate you.

"Loneliness is one of the most painful yet necessary experiences in life. People feel incomplete, empty, or even starving inside. It is also a strong motivating force, just as food hunger is. Loneliness can make us do almost anything to fill up the hole inside. It is easy to see how, when you find someone you are drawn to, you can quickly fill up your life with that person.

Loneliness is stronger than resolve, willpower, or discipline. People will promise themselves not to get too involved, and find that their promise melts when their relational hunger meets a person they desire. All of a sudden, they are spending every evening together and settling into a pattern of being a couple.

Loneliness is not the enemy here, however. When we are lonely, it is a signal that we are alive. God created us with the drive to connect and be attached to himself and others. It is a good thing, because loneliness ultimately leads us to relationship, and that is where God wants all of us. We are all members of one body (Ephesians 4:25). Relationship cures loneliness.

However, dating is not the kind of relationship that cures loneliness, and that is the real problem here. Relationships that resolve loneliness must have certain elements, such as safety, unconditional love, and deep commitment. These elements help the person take in the love they need, get connected to life, and stay in relationship. Dating does not have these elements. At least at first, it is exploratory and low-commitment in nature. So lonely people often get deeply and quickly connected to someone. Then, when conflicts arise, they are devastated because they invested such deep parts of their hearts and souls in the relationship.

If you are getting too close, too soon out of loneliness, use it as a signal to get connected with some good, solid, non-dating relationships. Deal with loneliness before it backfires on you. […]

Your aloneness makes you get involved in relationships that you know are not going to last. It also keeps you from being alone long enough to grow into a person who does not have to be in a relationship in order to be happy. There is a very important rule in dating and romance: To be happy in a relationship, and to pick the kind of relationship that is going to be the kind you desire, you must be able to be happy without one.

As Psalm 1:3 says of the person who is growing into all of God’s ways and law: "He is like a tree planted by the streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither. Whatever he does prospers." The whole life is a full life. And the by-product of fullness is that the fulfilled person is also a very attractive one.

Dating was never meant to cure aloneness. It was meant to fulfil adult needs for male-female romantic relationship on the way toward marriage."

– extracted from p. 165, "Too Much, Too Fast", Making Dating Work: Boundaries in Dating, Dr. H. Cloud & Dr. J. Townsend

("Eh, you can pretend to be a police officer and scare those kids away!" "Hah! OKAY MUST THROW RANK A BIT HOR." "But in the army, you’re a private!!" "SHHH!")

Neah, he’s just got into army lah. But I do know WY will rise up to be quite a high-ranking officer. I just know it.

 
I insisted on doing the colour gradient thing so that I could take more photos…

More here. You may have to have Facebook if you want to view them! Hurhurhur.

She created this collage for me Made me retrieve many memories that had been tucked at the back of my mind. Thanks!

First 2 days of keeping-fit: FAIL.

Oh well. This week has been TOO busy. My mom was amazed that I reached home at 930pm today. Yea, all the late nights have given me nothing but headaches and incoherent speech. And last minute work. Sigh.

Tomorrow morning, I shall run before church. Mark my words.

Okay fine. TRY to (wobble)run.

(That’s HIS signature act cute pose. )

Oh, and here’s a promise to myself: From tomorrow morning onwards, I will wake up at 7am every other day to run. Too flabby.

So I’m now officially a Dai Dee, it’s interesting to look back on the past years and marvel at how much I’ve grown. Not much, vertically, but definitely on a different scale. What’s happened has happened. It matters more that I learnt from them.

A gigantic word of thanks to my CG. I’ve requested for their present to be a love offering for the Thai mission trip, and I’m very, very touched. Touched by the bordering-on-sacrificial amount they’ve each given, even if they may not be financially well-off.

Also, I’m touched by the kind words and effort of the youths who bothered to make/get me something despite their busy school life and many other friends to care about (: It does make being a coach fulfilling! Thanks!

Plus all those who dropped me as simple as an SMS, phone call and Facebook/Friendster comment!

Last but not least, a heap load of thanks to the Boy for spending the day with a sneezy, wheezy me. Him just being with me is already a tremendous blessing. I can now say that I’ve ever dated a younger man in his teens. For 24 hours. Heh. He gave me a pair of Shure E2G earphones for my drum metronome/laptop use. I got him a pair of limited edition Jack Purcells. Talk about gift exchange! Happy birthday to you, darling!

And before anyone starts teasing me for being mushy, the most thanks goes to God. Thank You for sustaining me all these years! I’ve lived past my teenhood! YES! Hurhur.

This is probably the most emotional day I’ve had in a long time. Ironic, since it’s also the day I turn older.

I know that there’s nothing wrong with crying, but I’ve bottled this up long enough.

Kor, even though you’re seldom at home to begin with, it’s impossible to not miss someone I’ve grown up with and always looked up to. I know you’ll do well. I just pray for you to be safe. And keep your life safely close to God. Start a blog or something okay? You know you can always read my blog for updates on the family. I’ll do that.

And I’ll cry if I want to.

I was thinking about a recent online conversation I had with C. As I declared (before making a statement) then, I didn’t care if what I said made me to be self-righteous. But my ‘declaration’ haunted me: What an immature string of words! Like everyone, I am a sinner. No matter how I can try to wiggle my way out of being associated with them, the bottom line is that we are all sinners — one way or another.

Exasperation led me to speak those words. I have had enough of this whole ruckus. The quakes should have subsided by now; ha, it must have been plain idealism that the aftermath would take a couple of years to die off. Barely is there anymore mention of the matter as far as I am in the know or am concerned. But like fault lines around the Ring of Fire, nay, it never rested. It never stopped creating discontented waves in the ocean.

Not that I had no hand in this — I am upset that my initial stupidity and naiveness was the upheaval to the quakes. And worse of all, these quakes have eventually encroached on yet another’s being. How I wish to say that everything is fine and dandy. (It is, rather, with me now.) But that would be more lies. After all that is said and done, I only have to remind (and watch) myself that God will be the Judge. Justice will be done. In His time, not mine.

Habeas corpus ab subjiciendum.

Our new demo, Ordinary is King, is up! Thanks to Nick Chan from Music For Good for the effort he’s put in to produce the song in such limited time. Do take a listen here.

A couple of gig opportunities coming up… One at Home Club and another at Youth Park. Really hope they materialise!

The brother flies to Northwestern University come Monday. He’s leaving for at least 4 years… I thought I wouldn’t miss him (no difference him having around or not), but I’m starting to eat my thoughts. Gah. Still, that doesn’t exempt him from pissing me off to know he delibrately doesn’t want to add me on Facebook!

Finally, I’ve decided. Soon.

At the jetty. (Smiling though we — fine, I –forgot to unload our rods. Our reels and bait were still with us though.)

First up: BBQ chicken wings!

Extremely large bunkbeds that hold up to 8 adults in one stretch.

In the morrrrning… (One of those annoying songs that like to get itself stuck in your head no matter what.)

Started fishing immediately after I woke up (see: messy hair)

Faith CG’s female youth coaches And as you can see, I’m hooked on fishing. Ha ha. It’s really quite addictive! I had a good day at sea. Caught about 13 fishes. Can’t help but boast about my luck and SKILL…

Worship time on the bunks! Not that it isn’t a good thing, but someone looks a tad too enthusiastic… Hurhur.

The kelong.

Kiss my foot, slave! (Oh no, that was a Kuoby moment)

The senior coaches. =]

Home, after a really enjoyable (but sticky and icky) Coaches’ Retreat.

More pictures HERE!

Matthew 7
Judging Others

1"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

3"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

6"Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces.

More coming up…